How To: Wedding Invitation Wording

It’s been a couple years since I first wrote a blog post about how to word wedding invitations and with time comes change. Now that I am in the thick of the busy season I thought this would be a great time to update my list of ideas. I’m guessing you’ve never been married before so this is all new you to, no worries, that’s why you hired a professional {hopefully me - hire me here}! I’ve also included a list of ways to handle a no kids wedding because these are becoming more and more common.

Note: All wording that follows is gender neutral {yay!}. If you choose to use the traditional bride and groom terminology, the bride’s name will be listed first followed by the groom’s name. History tells us this is because your wedding day is the one day a bride would get to be listed before the groom because it is traditional once married that names are listed as Mr. and Mrs. This goes for all stationery items - save the dates, invites, programs, signs, etc.

BOTH SET OF PARENTS INVITING

Mr. & Mrs. {Father and Mother First Names and Last Name}
and
Mr. & Mrs. {Father and Mother First Names and Last Name}
Request the honour of your presence
At the marriage of their children
{First and Middle Names}
&
{First and Middle Names}
On the {Day} of {Month}
{Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

Tip: Traditionally the spelling of "honour" is used if your ceremony is held in a place of worship. But if you prefer to use "honor" that is acceptable as well.

 

ONE SET OF PARENTS INVITING WITH MENTION OF OTHER SET OF PARENTS

Mr. & Mrs. {Father and Mother First Names and Last Name}
Request the honour of your presence
At the marriage of their daughter/son
{First and Middle Names}
to
{First and Middle Names}
Daughter/Son of Mr. & Mrs. {Father and Mother First Names and Last Name}
On the {Day} of {Month}
{Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

Tip: Some parents would prefer to just list the husband's first name so for example it would read Mr. & Mrs. John Doe instead of Mr. & Mrs. John and Jane Doe.

Another Tip: You don't have to list the "Daughter/Son of" line if you don't want to, but I find it is a common courtesy to list that in case a guest may not know both of you. If you choose to not list this, then I would suggest adding a last name.

 

COUPLE INVITING #1

{First, Middle and Last Names}
&
{First, Middle and Last Names}
Invite you to celebrate their marriage
On the {Day} of {Month}
{Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

Tip: Have some fun with the Reception to Follow line as well. You could use "Cocktails, Dinner and Dancing to Follow" if you are having a cocktail hour or just "Dinner and Dancing to Follow" if not having a cocktail hour.

 

COUPLE INVITING #2

We invite you to join us
In celebrating our love.
On this day we will marry the one
We laugh with, live for, dream with, love.
We have chosen to continue
Our growth through marriage.
Please join
{First, Middle and Last Names}
&
{First, Middle and Last Names}
{Day} of {Month}, {Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

COUPLE INVITING #3

{First, Middle and Last Names}
&
{First, Middle and Last Names}
Invite you to share in their love
and happiness as they exchange
vows of marriage and begin their
new life together on
{Day} of {Month}, {Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

 COUPLE INVITING #4

{First, Middle and Last Names}
&
{First, Middle and Last Names}
Are getting married
And would like to invite you
to join them on their special day
{Day} of {Month}, {Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

 

COUPLE & PARENTS INVITING

Together with their families
{First, Middle and Last Names}
&
{First, Middle and Last Names}
Request the honour of your presence
At their marriage
On the {Day} of {Month}
{Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

Tip: The line "Request the honour of your presence at their marriage" can be changed to "Invite you to celebrate their wedding" or "Joyfully request your presence at their wedding" or whatever else you may come up with!

 

REMARRIED PARENTS - FATHER OR MOTHER ONLY INVITING

Mr. & Mrs. {First Names and Last Name}
Request the honour of your presence
At the marriage of {his/her} daughter/son
{First and Middle Names}
to
{First and Middle Names}
Daughter/Son of Mr. & Mrs. {Father and Mother First Names and Last Name}
On the {Day} of {Month}
{Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

 

DIVORCED PARENTS INVITING

{Mr. or Ms.} {First and Last Name}
Request the honour of your presence
At the marriage of {his/her} daughter/son
{First and Middle Names}
to
{First and Middle Names}
Daughter/Son of Mr. & Mrs. {Father and Mother First Names and Last Name}
On the {Day} of {Month}
{Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

Tip: If both divorced parents are hosting, both of their names should be listed, but on separate lines.

 

COUPLE & CHILDREN INVITING

{First, Middle and Last Names}
to
{First, Middle and Last Names}
Along with their children
{Children First Names}
Invite you to celebrate their
Joining of two families as one
On the {Day} of {Month}
{Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

Tip: You could have some fun with this wording as well and have the children listed as inviting guests to their parents' wedding.

 

COUPLE INVITING WITH MENTION OF DECEASED PARENT(S)

{First, Middle and Last Names}
Daughter/Son of {Living Parent First and Last Name} and the late {Deceased Parent First and Last Name}
&
{First, Middle and Last Names}
Daughter/Son of Mr. & Mrs. {Father and Mother First Names and Last Name}
Invite you to celebrate their marriage
On the {Day} of {Month}
{Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}
Reception To Follow

Tip: Use the same format as the first line in place of the second line if that is where this would need to be used.

 

ELOPEMENT - INVITE TO RECEPTION

We Eloped!
{First, Middle and Last Names}
&
{First, Middle and Last Names}
Invite you to celebrate their marriage
On the {Day} of {Month}
{Year}
At {Time}
{Wedding Location}
{Street Address}
{City, State}

Tip: Have some fun with your wording if you eloped to Vegas or somewhere tropical!

 

ADULTS ONLY NOTICES

Struggling with how to let your guests know children are not invited? This starts with how you address your envelopes. The best way is to mention ALL guest names that are invited. If you use the “and family” wording this leaves it open to the guests’ interpretation of what is considered their family.

Another option is to designate how many seats have been reserved for them on the RSVP card. Some common wording used is “We have reserved ____ seats in your honour/honor.” Or since you will need to know how many people are coming you could use this wording “____ of ____ attending.” For both of these you would need to fill in the blank line with how many guests you are inviting.

Note: Be sure to check out my RSVP card wording ideas blog post as well.

 

wording ideas for your details card:

Adults Only Wedding and Reception

Please join us for an adult only reception at {insert time}.

Please note this will be an adults-only celebration.

This is a 21 and over only venue.

We respectfully request no children under 16 at the reception.

Although we love your little ones, this is an adult only affair.

Unfortunately we cannot accommodate children – thank you for your understanding.

Due to limited venue space, children are not included on the invite unless named.

We love kids, but we also think adults need a night off. Adults only please!

To allow guests to relax and enjoy themselves, we have chosen to make our special day adults only. We hope you understand and enjoy your night off!

 

wording ideas for your wedding website:

Children of immediate family only please.

Respectfully, an adult occasion (18+). Infants under 12 months welcome.

Due to limited numbers, we hope you appreciate that children are only invited if named.

Unfortunately we are only able to accommodate children in the wedding party at our ceremony and reception.

If you are still struggling with how to word your invitations, please don’t hesitate to ask! In the end, it is your wedding and I want you to be able to word your invitations in the best way to fit your personalities and your style of celebration.

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